Oh snap. And I agree that it is appreciation but sex is not everything. Sometimes just to be in her presence and talking with her is enough. Then sex would be a lot better. You reap just what you sow you know so sow a good crop to reap a good one. Put in time to make a spark then have wild sex. Otherwise you might as well masturbate.
Conceptually, this is pretty ok. I'm an extreme extravert, which means I leech emotional stuff from everyone. So my deal is usually to just be in a deep emotional relationship, less so a sexual one, which is why I don't tend to be with guys too much, it's easier to find girls who are less physical than guys who are.
To me, sex often ruins it.